Which is why I'm including the bonus book, The Big Book of Ass. I've devoted an entire chapter to talking to your partner about anal, because how you communicate it is THAT important. Here's an excerpt...
There are three types of partners, when it comes to anal:
👉🏻 Those with no anal experience.
👉🏻 Those with negative anal experience.
👉🏻 Those with positive anal experience.
Of course, if your partner has had mostly positive anal experiences (giving or receiving), they are more likely to be open to your suggestion.
Or your partner may have been a Giver, and not have any experience with receiving, or vice versa.
Generally, though, a positive experience gives you a leg up (or maybe both legs up! LOL! I crack myself up!). It’s easier to understand someone wanting to experience something that you find pleasurable as well.
Those with no anal experience could be easy to convince (“Hey! Let’s try this!” “OK.”), or may have resisted for a long time and you are just one more in a long succession of lovers trying to talk them into something they just have no interest in.
If your partner has had a negative experience, that will usually make the convincing more difficult, because of natural resistance to avoid something unpleasant.
However, if, like me, they are still curious, it may actually be easier to convince them to try a second (third, fourth, or hundredth) time.